Wednesday, May 29, 2013

How to Have an Amazing Mother's Day

1. Get your people (and especially the "head" of your people)to let you decide on each detail of the day because mothers deserve a whole day to decide the details. Or, maybe you want THEM to decide the details. It's important on Mother's Day that your heart is happy with the results. 
2. Go somewhere with those people who made you a mother. Don't go somewhere you don't want to go. Go somewhere you like going, somewhere that is new, or old, wherever it is that puts a smile on your face. We went into Portland, to a deli with yummy sandwiches, and to several bakeries with yummy treats. 
3. Have yummy treats. I had an egg cream, homemade oreos. Something tasty that you can all enjoy and remember really does make the day fun, especially if it comes wrapped in a box with a grossgrain ribbon. We got treats at two of my favorite bakeries in Portland: Two Tarts and Bluebird Bakers.

4. Wear something that you like. This navy eyelet dress was $10 at Old Navy.
5. Take a family picture. Sometimes this means standing and trying to get everyone in the frame with your I Phone until a stranger offers.

6. Stop, or if you are made to stop, savor the lessons in that brief pause.
7. Go again, but this time on a bike, with the people you love, near water, or nature, or both. See what's around you. Delight in baby ducks.
8. Take more pictures of your people. This never fails to remind you of your many blessings.
9. Stand somewhere amazing and be amazed by the space. This was taken in the UO building downtown. 



10. Let a good cook cook for you, and request a meal you enjoy. Here I enjoyed halibut, yummy mashed potatoes, a bit of texas caviar, and cilantro sauce/dip with the fish. It was heavenly. I am very lucky to have a good cook for a husband.

11. Reflect on the goodness of the day, and be glad. This day comes but once a year and you deserve every minute of its goodness.


Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Some Things About My Mother

Here we are all clean 
and settled in 
for an episode of Little House.

I guarantee we teared up together,
because 
despite the deadpan face 
below the head scarf 
in home movies,
she taught me 
how to have a heart 
that got straight A's in Caring Class.

With her I've laughed my most aerobic laughter,
bent over the pages of David Sedaris in an empty house on a blow up mattress.

She gave me things
like artistic ability and
calves that in shadows
look the same width as thighs.


She made me clothes on a deadline, staying up late to finish.
I remember the thrill of finding 
a white blouse and light blue striped skirt hanging pinned to a hanger 
 the next day.
  

She nourished me 
with favorites like salmon ring or creamed chipped beef on toast.



To this day the volume of her sneeze surprises me.



Once she jumped rope with me and I laughed at the way her boobs bounced.
She didn't get mad.


She used to tell me my mother was a really good gal,
she'd met her at the grocery store once.


She's been known to get high 
on nature
I totally get that now, 
something about the smell of coniferous trees in the sun.

We laugh at her pronunciation of Queezenos
she calls potential POtential,
and we remember the way, 
when we were teenagers finally home for the night, 
she would come down to check on us, 
her robe clutched around her chin and her face sleepy.


We both hate snakes.
 

When spontaneous dancing overtakes me (or ANYONE) it is her favorite.




She knows me 
both the way she wants to know me
and probably pretty accurately.

She has definitely taken liberties 
about my perfection,



but nobody else believes in me
like she does,
so i have jokingly borrowed lyrics, 
telling her 
she's the wind beneath my wings.


But seriously,
she is.
-Me, 2013






 



Friday, May 03, 2013

Ikea Idea

Somewhere along the line the girls and I started playing around with these Ikea beads and the next thing you know we'd given birth to earrings. Basically you create a cool design out of beads, then create another one, iron them simultaneously so as to create a uniform sheen and meltedness, poke earring hardware through one of the top beads' centers and VOILA! EARRINGS! We made several pairs of these and they were very fun and easy, the kids really got into it, too. Try it out!

Wednesday, May 01, 2013



This is now. Now is,
all there is. Don't wait for Then;
strike the spark, light the fire.
Sit at the Beloved's table,
feast with gusto, drink your fill
then dance
the way branches
of jasmine and cypress
dance in a spring wind.

The green earth
is your cloth;
tailor your robe
with dignity and grace.


–Rumi